While meeting someone of the opposite gender who shares your faith off the bat is a great thing – it isn’t necessarily THE only thing. Go meet people – share your thoughts on theology, attend church… and if you grow together and you help improve her theology, great. Because it’s not as though everyone’s theology is set and fixed forever and there can be no growth and development.
My wife, when I met her, was not Lutheran. She was technically Roman Catholic, but in reality her mom was Roman Catholic, her dad was Baptist, which meant they argued about where they would go to church on Easter until half the time they missed going anywhere because it was too late. But when we met, we talked theology, she grew in her faith, and now I have a nice Lutheran bride. It can and does happen. And if there is no growth or development, and that doesn’t sit well… so be it. But any relationship will involve some growth and maturation — don’t simply assume that someone whom you date CANNOT grow or develop a better understanding of the faith.
(Interesting story – while we were dating, my (future) wife told me she was going to take adult instruction – we lived in different cities at the time. So I told my mom, who excitedly tells my dad, “She’s becoming Lutheran!” My mom was reading behind the lines. I hear over the phone my dad shout from across the room, “Good, tell him to dump her and go covert another one!” — to which my mom replied, “Oh don’t you dare, I want grandchildren!” Thus is life.)
Hope this helps,
Rev. Eric J. Brown
Zion Lutheran Church – Lahoma, OK