Is homosexuality judged based on the lifestyle as if the persons involved are continually sinning against God, or is it the act? I have a family member who is gay and not an active Christian and am
concerned with how to approach this. I am afraid that bringing up what they are doing is wrong will make them see me as judgmental but I’m just stating what the Bible says is the truth. We don’t judge others by stating what the Bible says, do we?
It’s interesting because I just heard a presentation on exactly this topic. First, people who have homosexual sexual desires are in the same position before God as those who have heterosexual sexual desires: sinners before God. Because all are sinners, there is no time when we are doing something that is without sin. Because of that we pray the Lord’s words “Lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil,” precisely because we cannot deliver ourselves. Nevertheless, as Christians, filled with the Holy Spirit, we battle the temptations of our flesh and the world, and we do not indulge the lusts of the flesh by acting on them. Just as we expect heterosexuals to be chaste inside of marriage, and celibate outside of marriage, so we expect the same for homosexuals.
Everyone makes judgments; the Christian’s goal is to make only the judgments which the Scriptures make.
But to the point of how you bear witness to a family member or friend, you may want to get the book I link below, which I have just bought. I have heard Pr. Eckstein speak, and I think it might be helpful to you.
Pr. Timothy Winterstein